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Do you ever feel more shy around your family?
Do you feel weird being around people your own age when someone in your family is around?
How about talking to someone of the opposite sex when your parents are watching?
Does it feel weird when you try to be more outgoing and sometimes seem like your family wants you to keep being shy?
There are several reasons why you feel this way, and 3 major ones:
Reason 1: You Care What They Think
This is the biggie. It’s hard not to care what your family thinks. You may worry they judge how you act, who you know or what clothes you wear. If you’re a teenager or living at or near your parent’s home, it can be even more difficult.
One way to stop caring so much is to get a life. I mean it. Seek out new friends, new interests, and outside groups. If you have a life outside of the house you’ll stop caring as much about what your family thinks because they will become only part of your life, instead of being there always.
By the way, I know “get outside interests and friends” is a lot easier to say than it is to actually do. I know what it’s like to be shy and feel stuck inside the house. It’s like having an invisible barrier holding you down and you wish something would just “snap” and make your life better.
Reason 2: Won’t They Notice If You Change?
You’re afraid of suddenly acting more confident and talking less quiet because you don’t want your family to notice. This goes back to Reason 1, But there’s actually a much easier solution for this feeling.
Yes, they may notice you changing, but they won’t mind. If they do, it’s because they feel like they’re “losing control” over you. Some outgoing people feel more important around shy people because they like being able to boss them around and dominate over them. If your family doesn’t want you to change, hang around them less (see #1).
Also, it’s generally expected that shy people need some time to “break out of their shell”. You won’t really be surprising anyone.
Reason 3: They Know You’re Shy
It’s very hard to change the impression of you that your family has built up over many years. Maybe they see you as “a shy person”. The worst part about this is, the impression they’ve built up is like an elastic band. There’s no way to gradually make them see you as a more and more confident person. It will just snap back to “shy guy/girl”.
Get away for a bit. If you’re leaving for college or moving to a new, faraway job soon, that would be the best solution.
If they only start to see you occasionally, instead of every day, they will have to re-evaluate and change their initial impression of you. They expect you to change if they haven’t seen you for a while. There’s also a second bonus to getting away.
People Have Expectations They Expect You to Live Up To
People generally behave as others expect them to behave. If your friends know you are shy, they won’t like it if you are suddenly loud. That’s not because they don’t want you to stop being shy, but it just seems weird.
An outgoing, funny guy who is well-known will have every one’s attention as soon as he enters a room. That’s because everybody expects him to be outgoing and funny, and he plays into that expectation.
Imagine travelling to a new city. You could hop onto an airplane, and in a few hours, you’re in a totally different place. You could be whoever you want to be in that place. That’s the feeling “getting away” gives you.
In a different place, where no one has any expectations of what kind of person you are, you can “pretend” to be confident and change a lot more rapidly.
It’s like an instant shyness cure.
In this article, here’s what you’ve read:
- There are many reasons for you to feel like your family is holding you back from changing.
- What it all comes down to is you caring what they think. You can start caring less by building interests outside of your home and eventually, by having a social life.
- They may notice if you start changing. Usually it’s expected for a shy person to take some time to “break out of your shell”.
- They know you’re shy, and expect you to continue being the same person. One way to get around this is to get away from your family for a bit. Move away, and only see them occasionally. Maybe it’s college or a new job.
- Getting away from your family for a bit will give you the opportunity to meet people who don’t know you’re shy and you can “pretend” to be confident. This is the fastest way to change.
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